3. Tighten the boundaries and lean into routine. During this transistion there have been so many things that are outside of my control it can become quite a whir. Pulling in the boundaries really helps keep your sanity and provides stability. Creating a new routine can be a crutch to help you through the period of adjustment. Over the years my family has spent a lot of time together, I've rarely felt that I was absent. That came from some boundary moves about six years ago in my life. But with extended family so close we spend a lot of time with them as well. Over the last couple months we have really dialed into protecting a couple nights( T/Th) a week as family nights at home. Suddenly we have time to take care of a lot of little things that could always just kind of slide. These little things left undone are stressors that we were carrying. The routine's not perfect, and will need to be tweaked and rearranged from time to time, but when things are moving in new directions all around me I find it a helpful friend to lean on.
--Ben
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