I'm back in the saddle again this morning. I enjoyed yesterday very much. I felt like I maximized my day. I had a four, five and six o'clock appointments. I really enjoy pre-marital counseling. I'm meeting with two couples right now and I love them. They are very different, but interesting and unique. I enjoyed my meetings last night, and just sharing in a very personal way. I am very open about my own life and experience, because I believe that the Bible is right when it instructs that older should teach the younger, and though I'm not much older by age, I am older in marriage experience. I challenged both couples to consider how their marriage is going to improve other's. How will the way they communicate help a couple who will marry in a few years? How will the way they handle finances be an example for others to follow?
I believe that the essence of pre-marital counseling is to peel away as much of the artificial views of marriage as possible, dig down below the answers that each person "knows" their spouse wants to hear, and get down to the true actions and beliefs of each person. That's when we can face the next 60 years of our lives and say, "I choose these fights, these battles. I know that anyone I marry will bring tension and struggle. But before we wed I can choose the struggles I'll have till death parts us."
Isn't that romantic!?!
--Ben
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