Monday, December 31, 2007

Billick Fired
Monday, December 31, 2007
Fox Sports







WBAL Radio's Steve Davis is reporting that the Ravens have fired head coach Brian Billick.

A source tell Davis that Ravens owner Steve Bisciotti fired Billick this morning.

There was a 1:30 p.m. team meeting at the Ravens headquarters, and Billick was not there.

The team has called a 3:30 p.m. news conference which will be heard live on WBAL, and wbal.com.

Earlier this month, both Billick and sources inside the Ravens said the coach would be back, noting the team had suffered many injuries to key players.

The owner apparently changed his mind in light of the team's dismal season, and after players and other employees told Bisciotti had lost the locker room and could not win back the players.

When things slow down

Well to the few of you who've been popping in I want to thank you. This time of year really slows down. And I want to officially announce that I'll be off-line for about two weeks. I don't expect to post in the next couple days, and I'll be on vacation with only sporadic (at best) internet coverage. In the mean time I want to wish each of you a very special New Year celebration. I'm looking forward to 2008 as the year of much housework. I'll explain more later I'm sure.

l really love blogging. I'm glad that you read and share my life.

--Ben

Saturday, December 29, 2007

Preparing for the Fast

As I've mentioned before, we are calling a fast for the Severn River Church community. Everyone who worships with us is invited to participate. This 21 day fast is patterned after the fast of Daniel. Daniel wanted to hear from the Lord so he decided to fast. I think SRC needs to hear from God. I want to be close enough to hear His still, small voice. Part of getting there requires purging away things that distract us from relying on him. Fasting food has been a spiritual discipline since the early fathers of Judaism, it continued into the New Testament church and over the centuries to this era. We fast to remember our dependence on God. We fast to obey God. We fast to follow Christ's example.

So how do we fast? It's very doubtful that we're going to eat no food for three weeks, but I would recommend that during this time of fasting you fast food. It is interesting seeing those two words connected "fast food". It is exactly our culture of fast food that I think makes it even more difficult to fast. We're so reliant on the convenient, the immediate. Fasting is a spiritual discipline that peals us away from that culture and instead makes us look to the eternal, the everlasting. And knowing the everlasting takes time. That's why scripture repeatedly tells us that the way to know God is through waiting.

Perhaps you could fast by giving up one meal a day. Perhaps you would take lunch for a period of days (maybe all 21) and instead of eating, you would spend time in prayer and scripture meditation. Maybe you could honor God in your fast like Isaiah talks about by donating your food to the poor. Or you may give up a portion of your meal like Daniel did; abstaining from meat and processed foods.

Just like fast food has affected our culture are there other things that we've become reliant on other than God? I know that I've benefited from fasting radio, music, news, and information. I know a person who finds dependence for normalcy in reading, so she fasted reading so that she could focus on God for normalcy.

I guess I wonder if at the end of 21 days we could all say that we fasted and more importantly we would all know the mind of God a little more clearly. What is it that you'll do without for 21 days in order to participate with this faith community on this fast?


--Ben

Friday, December 28, 2007

The Park

I followed up this morning's memory with a trip to the park. Sydney and I went to Lake Waterford and saw the ducks, and then went to the swings. Just daddy and his girl. We had a great time.

--Ben

This morning...

This morning I woke up to the sound of my daughter singing in the bed next to me. She was singing E-I-E-I-O.

So I sang B I N G O....

Then she said, "yeah, THE ITSY BITSY SPIDER..."

So I sang "I'm bringing home a baby bumble bee"

Then she sang Fuzzy Wuzzy was a bear...

Then I sang "Dinah won't you blow"

Then we both sang twinkle twinkle.

It was a good morning. One of those moments you wish you could freeze in time.

--Ben

Thursday, December 27, 2007

A Pastor For President?

You know from time to time I have thought about running for political office. l have often come to the conclusion that I couldn't get elected, and even moreso that if I were to get elected, I'd have real problems getting reelected. I would like to set some things straight, and that never goes very well in office. Anyway...

I've been paying more attention to Mike Huckabee as most of those paying attention to the news have been. It is interesting to see his race, because he and I hold a common faith and vocation. He used to serve as a Southern Baptist pastor. I find it interesting because he comes under fire for both his faith and work history, and is portrayed often as a kook because of those things. I also think it's interesting that he is constantly compared with Mitt Romney because Mitt is a Mormon. Their faith has become front and center in the media coverage. So Mitt's a Mormon, and Hucks a Baptist. Can anyone tell me what denomination the Reverend Jackson or Rev. Al Sharpton are from? I don't ever remember hearing much about their faith as an issue?

See I couldn't get elected...but then, why would I want to leave Severn River Church?

--Ben

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

A Nice Long Deep Breath

Imagine a job that is people intensive, like sales. There you are on the phone all day everyday, slipping out to businesses for cold calls, or for follow-up calls. People know you, they like you, they enjoy hearing from you, and sometimes they have to track you down because they need something from you.

And then Christmas comes and people just disappear. They're gone, and if they are around they are busy with the things that makes this time of year great. And what do you do if you're in that job you've imagined?

Well if you're a pastor in that kind of job you take a nice long deep breath. Most years I roll out of town today (the day after Christmas). It's vacation time because this is the quietest week in the year for church life. But we have a nephew's birthday coming up in a couple days so we're staying in town for that, and then leaving next week for vacation. ln the mean time I'll be finishing up and closing out the year by looking ahead and planning. There's still a service Sunday to prepare for, and budget to finalize for next year. So there's still a lot of busy work.

I hope you enjoy the days of the next week. Do yourself a favor. Be sure to take a nice, long, deep breath.

--Ben

Monday, December 24, 2007

Christmas Card

Ok, a quick post. (Quick because most of it is cut and paste)

I got a card from my early Sunday School days. She has been very faithful at sending a Christmas Card ever since I went into the ministry. She has superb handwriting even at 90+ and she includes some money each year which is always nice. This year she encouraged me to "grow where the Lord has planted me." --What an encouragement.

She also included a Christian tract. I'm not sure if she is trying to get me saved or what. (Just Kidding) It included a story that I found on another website, and thought I'd post it. It's fantastic. Enjoy!!!


For years now whenever Christmas pageants are talked about in a certain little town in the Midwest, someone is sure to mention the name of Wallace Purling. Wally’s performance in one annual production of the Nativity play has slipped into the realm of legend. But the old timers who were in the audience that night never tire of recalling exactly what happened.

Wally was nine that year and in the second grade, though he should have been in the fourth. Most people in town knew that he had difficulty in keeping up. He was big and clumsy, slow in movement and mind. Still, Wally was well liked by the other children in his class, all of whom were smaller than he, though the boys had trouble hiding their irritation if the uncoordinated Wally asked to play ball with them.

Most often they’d find a way to keep him off the field, but Wally would hang around anyway—not sulking, just hoping. He was always a helpful boy, a willing and smiling one, and the natural protector, paradoxically, of the underdog. Sometimes if the older boys chased the younger ones away, it would always be Wally who’d say, “Can’t they stay? They’re no bother.”

Wally fancied the idea of being a shepherd with a flute in the Christmas pageant that year, but the play’s director, Miss Lumbard, assigned him to a more important role. After all, she reasoned, the Innkeeper did not have too many lines, and Wally’s size would make his refusal of lodging to Joseph more forceful.

And so it happened that the usual large, partisan audience gathered for the town’s Yuletide extravaganza of the staffs and creches, of beards, crowns, halos and a whole stageful of squeaky voices. No one on stage or off was more caught up in the magic of the night than Wallace Purling. They said later that he stood in the wings and watched the performance with such fascination that from time to time Miss Lumbard had to make sure he didn’t wander onstage before his cue.
Then the time came when Joseph appeared, slowly, tenderly guiding Mary to the door of the inn. Joseph knocked hard on the wooden door set into the painted backdrop. Wally the Innkeeper was there, waiting. “What do you want?” Wally said, swinging the door open with a brusque gesture.

“We seek lodging.”

“Seek it elsewhere.” Wally looked straight ahead but spoke vigorously. “The inn is filled.”

“Sir, we have asked everywhere in vain. We have traveled far and are very weary.”

“There is no room in this inn for you.” Wally looked properly stern.

“Please, good innkeeper, this is my wife, Mary. She is heavy with child and needs a place to rest.
Surely you must have some small corner for her. She is so tired.”

Now, for the first time, the Innkeeper relaxed his stiff stance and looked down at Mary. With that, there was a long pause, long enough to make the audience a bit tense with embarrassment.

“No! Begone!” the prompter whispered from the wings.

“No!” Wally repeated automatically. “Begone!”

Joseph sadly placed his arm around Mary, and Mary laid her head upon his shoulder, and the two of them started to move away. The Innkeeper did not return inside his inn, however. Wally stood there in the doorway, watching the forlorn couple. His mouth was open, his brow creased with concern, his eyes filling unmistakably with tears.

“Don’t go, Joseph,” Wally called out. “Bring Mary back.” And Wallace Purling’s face grew into a bright smile. “You can have my room.”

Some people in town thought that the pageant had been ruined. Yet there were others—many others—who considered it the most Christmas of all Christmas pageants they had ever seen.

*This article by Dina Donohue is reprinted from the Baptist Herald (Dec. 15, 1968).

He can have my room, my house, my life, my all.

Merry Christmas!

--Ben

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Jingling Bells

The jingling bells are calling for me so I'm officially checking out of the blogosphere for a couple days. Hope you and yours enjoy a nice holiday together.

--Ben

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Something

Wow, Thursday is over. I have been thinking I need to post something, so here it is. Something. I've been really busy, but I will be posting more over the weekend. The Looking Ahead Series will continue.

Thanks for faithfully reading. I'll try to be a more faithful blogger.

--Ben

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

It's Working

"It's working!"

This was the exclamation that I made to Jessica Harp yesterday when I talked to her on the phone. She is in charge of our follow-up at SRC. Jess sorts through all the information that we collect on the Connection Cards, and reports to different leaders based on the information gathered. For instance, contact information is archived, prayer needs are passed on to Christine Duerling our Prayer Group Manager, volunteers are passed on to Rob Noeth our FaithWorks Manager, and information requests are given to me. She does a great job.

Follow-up is a major "behind-the-scenes" kind of work. I was thinking of that the other day, because recently our system has really started working well, and I'm really excited about it. We haven't cornered the market yet, but it's getting better. I thought I'd take a moment to fill you in on what happens to follow-up the typical, local guests that you bring...

1. Connection Card: This piece is crucial. This is the trigger. If we can't get this information, we can't do any follow-up. I mention that because when you bring a guest it's especially important that you fill out your card and ask them to fill their's out too.

2. Information is sorted as mentioned above.

3. First Time Guests:
  • Receive a handwritten letter from me on Severn River Church stationary. It is simple and plain, but I think that handwritten words between people are a lost art. I think it's a special touch that causes people to pause and enjoy it.
  • Included in the handwritten note is a $5 Exxon/Mobil gas card. We thank them for making the trip to us and offer a trip on us.
  • In addition to the letter they receive and E-mail welcoming them and offering them a 30-second online survey about their experience at SRC to help us serve guests better.
4. Second Time Guests:
  • Receive an e-mail thanking them for a second look. They are then directed to some information about our groups.
5. Third Time Guests:
  • Receive a Cookie Drop. (Jessica does a fantastic job with these.) I drop off the cookies. We used to do the Cookie Drop first, but we think it is probably better placed here after a relationship has started.
So far that is our plan. It is starting to work. We've seen a couple new families connected over the last couple months with this plan. I'll keep you informed. For more information on any of these steps please shoot me an e-mail at ben(at)severnriverchurch.com

--Ben

Directions

This week we're changing locations to the Elks Club in Severna Park. Because we know that it can be confusing to find your way to a new location, I thought we would offer door to door directions. You can find them from the home page of www.severnriverchurch.com just click HERE.

Thanks and I hope to see you Sunday!

Ben

Looking Ahead (Update)

This week I'll be finishing the Looking Ahead Series. Today I'll post part six of eight. From this point we really shift gears from vision to strategy. There are three strategic moves that I believe lie ahead of us. I hope you'll tune in for them.

--Ben

Monday, December 17, 2007

344 Days of Blessing and Gladness

You know we do a good job of cramming ourselves full all year, and then we top it off with a blowout called the holidays. Do you think amid all the adding of presents and pounds we could squeeze God out? This isn't one of those "remember the reason for the season" lectures. Instead I say enjoy the holiday and its offerings. If there's one attribute of God that I think highlights the entire redemption plan its His enjoyment of celebration. God created the earth for celebration with us, and is working throughout eternity to reconcile us, just to throw a party at the end of time. God loves celebrating.

But I think God also promotes cleansing. Part of the ritual of Jewish celebrations involves fasting and feasting. I think this year has been a smörgåsbord of the blessings of God, and I think that next year bodes even better, but how to make room for it? I think that we can most enjoy 344 Days of Blessing and Gladness, by taking 21 days of Prayer and Fasting. We don't chalk up points for how spiritual we are when we fast. Severn River Church doesn't believe that we're more spiritual because we call a fast. We just want to cleanse ourselves at the beginning of the year to make room for what God wants to unleash in the new year.

I'm inviting you to join in for 21 Days of Prayer and Fasting together with me and your church. You'll see more information on fasting and ways you can participate in the next two weeks.

--Ben

Sunday Reflections

  • It used to be that on Sunday's when we had more than thirty people it meant that all of our launch team was there, and some of our family members. It was interesting to think that yesterday the launch team was the minority and the church was populated with a group of people that have connected to the church in the last year. It's exciting to see the growth, and experience the new friendships.

  • Nelson did his thing yesterday, and we added Lizzy to the Production Crew. Lizzy is from New Jersey originally, and moved here over the summer. She was a blast to work with yesterday morning. She jumped right in and helped set up. We're moving her toward live audio, because that's what her background is in. We also announced that Rob Noeth is now leading in the FaithWorks ministry mobilizing the people-resources of SRC. If you want to know more about FaithWorks click here.

  • I got to pray with someone at the prayer station yesterday, he was a second-time guest. I think that's the fastest we've ever had a guest come for prayer. Ussually it takes about 3-4 weeks for someone to feel comfortable enough with that. Do you know why he came? Well, I think he wanted prayer, but I also think that it was because his friend who had invited him encouraged him to come to the station, then came and stood with him. I was so blessed to pray for him.
  • The host transition. It was huge contribution the way Matt Boyer hosted our services for the first year. Since he and Laurie moved, it's been a one-man show. I've been saying every word from start to finish. That's got to be getting old. (you guys are so patient) This week I'm hoping to add in the voices of some others. I hope you'll encourage them for their ministry of speaking and directing all of us.
  • SPEAKING OF OTHER VOICES!!! I got confirmation this week that Severn River Church will host guest speaker, Philip Foster on January 6th. Corie and I will be on vacation, and Phil has agreed to come and teach for the morning. I realized the other day that I've gone sixty plus weeks at SRC and probably could use a little vacation time. So glad that I was able to land a quality speaker. Besides you people are probably tired of hearing me anyway.
--Ben

New York, New York

We had a great time in NYC. (No I didn't buy an I Love NY T-shirt) We've been to the city several times, but had never seen Central Park so we made that out top destination. We spent about an hour there. It was beautiful. I really think that the city planners were brilliant for leaving that piece of property undeveloped in the middle of so much development. We watched some ice skaters and the Zamboni do it's thing. We walked around and and ate roasted nuts; it was really nice.

We saw Times Square, Rockefeller Center, Broadway down to 34th St. We saw the street painted in front of Macy's Store. Then we ate dinner with friends in the lower east side at one of my favorite restaurants Blue Smoke.

I'll have to try and steal some sleep this week. I had an early morning Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, and I'm feeling it. But I'm glad we went. The best part was just spending time with my wife all day. We talked and had some good conversations. I think both of us missed the girls, but we both enjoyed being together without them.

--Ben

Friday, December 14, 2007

Out of the Blogosphere

If it were up to me I would have posted all day today. There really are a ton of things about SRC that are rolling around in my head. But I spent the day with the best and brightest of Severn River Middle School. I had 6-8th grade for General Music. I watched The Sound Of Music Three times today, but never all the way through. I did try to get on, but the AACPS network blocked access to any blogger related site.

This has been such a good week sharing my heart and our vision together. I can really tell by the numbers on the site, and conversations I've had that people have received the posts well. I think the bottom line is that a lot of people needed a fresh dose of the vision. Some have never heard it. So it's been good to Look Ahead.

Tomorrow I'll be on the road. I'm looking forward to getting away with my wife for the day. We're heading to New York, New York. So some shopping, Skating, site seeing, and eating with some good friends of ours.

See you Sunday,

Ben

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Huge Response to "Looking Ahead"

So far this week we're on track to set a record for the number of visitors who have come to www.benjaminrainey.com to read the Looking Ahead series. I want to thank you because you have made that possible. I believe that each of these eight (8) posts are informing our future. I need every SRCer to read them and understand their role in this process. Some of you have been printing out the hard copies for others to read. I appreciate that. This is our future. I'm so thrilled to be part of it.

--Ben

Christmas Offering

I wanted to update you on the Christmas Offering. We started collection this week and we're already on our way with over $100.00 given. Collection will continue through December 23rd. Thanks for participating in helping us reach outside of our church by providing for the needy this holiday season. Monies given in the Christmas Offering are counted and recorded separately. 100 cents on the dollar goes directly to providing food and gifts for a needy family in our area.

--Ben

Looking Ahead Part Five (Serving)

Ever since the Compassion Journey, I have been thinking about how our church really reaches out to the community. One of our Core Values is Cultivating Community Connection, and we’ve said that is measured by answering the question, “If Severn River Church stopped existing, what would our community miss?” This year we’ve made some steps in that direction, but not to the level that we need to go. I think that after this year SPAN would say they missed our partnership to help the less fortunate. We had a larger contribution than they had ever had from the local Giant, and that was a result of our church working together to connect with the needs of the community. In fact, we gave so much to SPAN that they called sister group NCEON to come and take stuff for their pantry. But that experience taught me something; we can do more.

Do you remember the feeling that day at Giant? I think that it was almost electric as we served the community. When you look at Jesus’ instructions to the people he sent out, in his name, he gave these instructions: 1. Eat with them, 2. Meet their needs, 3. Tell them about the Kingdom. I think that my collective church experience has switched those things into opposite order.

I think when he said “eat with them” he was referring to having a relationship with them. Here’s a thought, maybe we could get to know them and their needs before we start trying to meet them. I think for most of this year I was trying to do service by braille; groping my way along trying to find a way to meet a need. Looking ahead, we will be getting to know our community and implementing compassion by design. Let’s not waste our time meeting needs that don’t exist. Let’s get to know the needs, then meet them. I think Jesus knew that when you do it in that order then you have a platform to share the Kingdom.

Those that attend the church should begin to see more and more opportunities to help us in this priority. We’ll begin by forming a task force (we might call it “Team Strike Force” because that sounds tough[1]) to strategically connect with people who can most inform us about the needs of our community. For instance, we’ll be talking with School Administrators, Local Business People, Local Government, and other non-profits that are designed for that purpose. We’ll be gathering data from 1,500 contacts in our community over the first 9 months of 2008, by the time we enter the fall we should be compiling the information we gathered, and strategically serving our community.

If we want to do Jesus’ thing, but not do it his way, we need to rethink our motives and goals. But if we want to be a church that is making disciples, baptizing them, and teaching them to obey God’s word, then this is the vision that lies ahead of us.

Something you’ll find out about me is that I’m not very original when it comes to vision. I pretty much try to find what Jesus is doing and get on board. Thanks for being part of it. I can’t wait to see this fleshed out in us. When I think about the impact we could have in our community I start shivering and shaking, because I know this is a God thing. You can be part of it. We will be part of it.

--Ben



[1] All rights to the name Team Strike Force are owned and operated by A. Gilt.

Bowie Town Center

Can I just share a thought I had this morning. Bowie Town Center is ridiculous. I feel the same about all town center shopping malls. It is so crazy to me that with the sprawl of communities we don't have real town centers so we manufacture fake ones.

Don't get me wrong the place is beautiful, and you a really homey feel when you walk around on the artificial streets and cobblestone, but wow, what a ton of money was spent making sure that we feel cozy when we shop. I guess you gotta spend money to make money.

--Ben

Breakfast with Noah

This morning, I grabbed breakfast with Noah. He told me something that really encouraged me. Check this out. In ministry there is a common amount of "theft". We joke about it, and most pastors encourage other people to steal there stuff, make it better and pass it on. I am a pastor who gets the benefit from "stealing" from others. Today, I found out that this pastor of a church of 375 people regularly steals from us. Can you believe that? The thoughts he reads of mine, inspire his own. The ministries and creative media we do are shaping the way they do ministry.

It's cool to think that our influence extends beyond us. I want to make a general disclaimer that all my stuff is open-source. I hope others can use it and improve the kingdom with it. When I take stuff from others I cite it so you should be good if you don't see it cited.

--Ben

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

A friend and partner

Today I had lunch with a friend and pastor of a partner church, Bill Chamberlin. Bill came to Annapolis several years ago and has been pastor of Church at the Mall. He's been a great supporter, and today called me and invited me to lunch.

We spent our time discussing pastoral ministry, lessons we're learning, and our vision for the greater-annapolis area. Really had a good time.

He told me during lunch that they were increasing their support of us by an additional 50%. Praise the Lord. I'm so thankful that God is still working to provide for us.

Recently I got an invitation from another church to come share our vision with them, because they want to start supporting a church plant as a partner.

God is good!

--Ben

Looking Ahead Part Four (Prayer Groups)

“Do you pray?”

I asked that question to a friend of mine recently, because I had something I wanted him to pray for me about. But what’s the use of sharing it with him if he’s not going to pray? Have you ever had someone tell you they would pray for you, only to have the sneaking suspicion that they were lying through their teeth? In Acts 2 we find that the new church prayed regularly together. The prayer that they experienced is seen in their friendships, small groups, and large groups. I need to come out in the open and say something. I believe in prayer. I believe that God does work His will according to the prayers of His people.

But do His people pray?

I hope that you have a personal habit of prayer. That habit should be a daily one. But a few years ago I realized a difference in prayer when I was not only praying for myself, but also for the needs of others. This is what we call Prayer Group. Our vision path, Large Group, Small Group, Prayer Group, is the essential path of growing disciples. But this path is not meant to be experienced in progression, it is the simultaneous action of a growing follower of Jesus.

Recently someone was asked to evaluate our church, and when the area of Prayer Group was mentioned she transparently shared that she didn’t know that we even did that. You know why? It’s because we’ve done a terrible job at promoting this part of our Vision Path. We’ve prayed and encouraged prayer, but I don’t think we’ve really involved everyone. The reason, if I can be totally open with you, is because we don’t know how. I don’t feel that I’ve ever been part of a church that excelled at mobilizing the people to pray. I’ve heard of churches that do some exceptional things, but I’m trying to figure out how to make prayer and ordinary thing.

The way we help people participate in Prayer Groups are through Sunday morning prayer, small group prayer, www.severnriverchurch.com/viewprayers, prayer walks, and Prayer Partners. We have utilized each of these things, but in 2008 our main focus will be on Prayer Partners. I believe that it will transform your prayer life and the life of our church to be praying for one another. The expectation we have of prayer partners is that they will contact each other weekly to find out how we can pray for each other; then pray for them daily. I believe it will change their life. I believe it will change your life.

What if there were people who really prayed for each other. Connect to Prayer Group in 2008. That’s my vision and I’m sticking to it.

--Ben

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

I'm so thankful...

It appears that a number of you are really taking my request to heart and are sharing the importance of the Looking Ahead posts with others. Today we broke a record for the number of views of these articles. I'm so thankful because I feel like the vision for our future is bright, but only if we're taking steps to follow the Lord's will for our church. You're an important part of it.

Thanks,

--Ben

Pertaining to the office search

Church Fined For Holding Bible Study
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
WBAL Radio as reported by John Patti and The Associated Press





A Salisbury Church has been fined for using its own building for Bible study.

The city of Salisbury fined the Bethany Lutheran Church $1,000 for allowing a house owned by the church to be used by a group for Bible study and other organized gatherings.

The fine was for a zoning violation, but Pastor Kevin Wackett thinks his church should be able to use the house for more than what it's zoned for, single-family housing.

An appeal is possible under a federal law protecting churches from zoning ordinances.

Since the fine, the house has been used only for storage.

Christmas Reminder

Looking Ahead Part Three (Small Groups)

When I was in college I had a professor who said that the answer to life was small groups. He called them LIFE groups and had training for students to lead LIFE groups. In fact, as a student leader we were required to attend. There is nothing that saps life out of things like being required to do it. For a host of other reasons too, the experience I had made me walk away thinking “small groups don’t work”.

In the years that followed I went into a ministry position where I was asked to lead a campaign called 40 Days of Purpose. In that program we encouraged the church to join in small groups, and my wife and I volunteered our home and to host the discussion. What happened on the first night forever changed my life.

In the first minutes of the first group I asked a question, an icebreaker really, but the answer I got was not what I expected. A couple that had attended together opened up about the struggles of their marriage, and the hope that they were finding in their faith. Instantly the group was galvanized by the transparency and authenticity that was shared not just by them but also by everyone in the group. It was a time of memorizing scripture verses, sharing their significance and relating them to our real lives.

That experience ruined me for a lifetime. I will never be without a small group again. That’s why when we started this church and examined the scripture in Acts 2:42-47 we knew that we had to have small groups as part of our vision. It became part of our vision path. The vision path is the means to accomplish our mission of making disciples, baptizing them, and teaching them to obey God’s Word.

Many of us know the mission of SRC, but haven’t found ourselves involved in the process that helps our church accomplish that mission. Looking ahead we are standing by this process and saying that every person at Severn River Church should be connected to a small group.

Small groups are places that people connect with people on their journey with God. It is a place of community, transformation and life development. Now I understand that as a church of 40 people we aren’t able to offer groups in every time slot. But I believe that the 90 minutes a week that you carve out for small group are a major component to your spiritual growth. What good is a church where everyone is ok with people not growing in their relationship with God? To me small groups are where the gospel is lived out. We are not a church with small groups, we are a church of small groups. If you want to connect with the church, the small group is where you do it.

In 2008 we’ll be increasing our focus on training new leaders. We’ll be moving to some new terms to describe our approach. These terms are C-groups (connection), E-groups (evangelism), and D-groups (discipleship). Whereas our groups have been homogenous up to this point we’re looking for great multiplication and diversity this year.

This is what I’m praying for. SRCers to say, “I want to grow in God, so I need a small group.” or “I’ve attended a small group for a year, now it’s my turn to start one.” or “I’ve got an idea on how to help people get together; I’m going to start serving dinner for my C-group on Tuesday nights.” or “There’s a major need for a LOST E-group.” Etc.

This is a vision worth looking ahead to. This is our vision.

--Ben

Inked the deal

I just inked a deal for a full-time member of the set-up crew. Nelson Cross has volunteered and is in charge of our Curtain/Projector set-up. Huge help. Much thanks. If you want to volunteer as part of FaithWorks contact me directly at ben (at) severnriverchurch.com or mark your connection card this week.

--Ben

Monday, December 10, 2007

Looking Ahead Part Two (The Sunday Meeting)

I spoke on the phone today with a friend from college. He asked what I was doing and at the time I was crunching numbers of an evaluation survey the Operations Team just completed. We chatted about the information I was gaining and insights that are being informed. And then he said something that really stuck me. He said, “It must be nice to have passed the first year mark and be able to evaluate; prior to that you just didn’t have much to compare against.” That’s exactly where I’m at on this stuff, and the results are coming in and there are some things that we need to address.

That’s what this series of posts is all about. Looking ahead at where we’re going, what our vision is. A year and a half ago, a group of faithful people partnered with me to see the vision of a new church come to be. Here we are with that vision underway, but where to from here? It doesn’t look like we said we wanted it to look. We have to recalibrate to make adjustments to get to where we said we were going.

Along the way we’ve added many new friends and members to the church who are grateful for where we are, but are not sure of what their part is in helping to advance the church. Hence the need for vision revisited.

I hope to synthesize some thoughts as I write these posts.

The primary area of our vision is about Sunday Morning. You may remember that in political terms the nineties were marked with the slogan, “It’s the Economy Stupid”. When it comes to church ministry a similar truism is at play, “It’s the Sunday Morning Service Stupid.”

Our Sunday Mornings have yielded practical and relevant teaching of the scripture and an opportunity to gather as the family of God. It’s a place that provides the flagship of our ministry effectiveness connecting new people to the work that God is doing at Severn River Church. One of our major needs is better organization of responsibilities among our people to make the Sunday Meeting happen. The FaithWorks ministry is designed to mobilize volunteers to specific roles on Sundays. We have not even come close to the vision we share for Sunday morning. The reality is we can’t get there from here. A dozen people have worked hard for a year to make Sunday mornings what we want them to be, but the fact is we need dozens of people in a host of areas including Production Crew (set-up), Audio/Video Technologies, Music, Children’s Church, and Guest Care to go to the next level. For most of the first year we had a volunteer who worked to manage the people resources necessary to cover the bases. That person stepped down, and with it I allowed the work of covering the bases to diminish. But now is the time to regroup and regain the perspective of what we’re shooting for. Every person has the ability and responsibility to serve God. We are making a greater effort to manage the efforts of those of you who are putting your faith into action, by serving your church family.

In recent weeks we’ve seen that the size of our congregation is growing. If we mobilize the people that God has given us, we can get to the vision of what Sunday morning ought to be. A place where a family of friends gathers to enjoy each other and worship there God. A place where we are a family expecting guests and warmly receiving new members into the family of friends. A vibrant place, a growing place, where people are connecting with God and his people in Community, Transformation, and Leadership Development. That’s a vision worth moving towards. That’s the vision we have.

Please participate by indicating on your Connection Card Sunday where you will volunteer.

--Ben

FaithWorks

Looking Ahead Part One (The Introduction)

I'd like to take some time each day this week to outline some things that I'm looking forward to in 2008. As we wind down this year, I'm getting fired up thinking about next year. These posts are not intended to prescribe what is going to happen, rather they're more to describe an intended direction.

The power of alignment is something that intrigues me. It is a quest that I'm pursuing. What if everyone at Severn River Church could be on the same page; all knowing where we're going and what part we have to play in it. I think that we could make major moves forward. This series will be included in our Annual Report due out at the end of January, but I'm asking that you read through it now, ask questions, help me distill it into the most meaningful offering I can.

I'd also ask for your help in enlistment. We have a disconnect between many SRCers and this web-resource (www.benjaminrainey.com). As a reader would you help enlist others that you know are contributing members but not regular readers by asking them to log on throughout this week, or by printing a hard copy for them to read.

Thanks,

--Ben

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Sunday Reflections

1. It never fails, for some reason the week after a huge day attendance falls to half. I look for it to rebound next week a little. Now, I bring that up to say this. I remember when any time we had over thirty people was a big day. Today we had more than thirty and it was a down day. Praise the Lord.

2. One of the great ironies of ministry related to "big days" is that typically on the days of highest attendance are your lowest offerings. This was true for us last week. My coach said this week it has routinely happened on his big days.

3. Today we added a newbie to the set-up team. I really appreciated the way Nelson jumped in and helped this morning. We had another newbie volunteer for setup last week, but they weren't able to get a ride today. I found that out late last night. Here's a thought. People that want to come to church, especially early, should never be without a ride. We'll fix that.

BTW, have I ever shared how much I love setting up? My brain is wired in a weird way that loves the accomplishment of setting up. So I love the hands on, sweaty toil. But not everyone does. To those who regularly come out each week I want to say thanks. Your work makes SRC possible. To those who haven't come out, come on it's fun. We could use the help. Today we had a really interesting discussion, it was great.

4. I was reminded that our church is larger than what we see on Sunday morning. I got a phone call this weekend from someone who doesn't attend very regularly, but wanted to call and "check in". We're making disciples and that is a time-intensive practice.

5. Today we welcomed two new members into SRC. Rob Noeth and Ryan Larson both made the membership covenant, and we're glad they're a part of SRC. Next week we look to add a couple more.

We had a great day, and Christ was lifted up. I love this church!

--Ben

Saturday, December 08, 2007

From the Severna Park Voice Newspaper

Click on the pictures below to enlarge them. Enjoy!

--Ben

Got it.

Several people responded to my post and provided the movie that I was looking for for Sunday. Thanks.

I'm so excited about the message tomorrow. How to care for my neighbor. Here's a thought that won't make it into the message tomorrow, but is interesting... A study was done on the Good Samaritan principle among seminary students. (Seminary is grad school for pastors.) The experiment was carried out by telling these pastors-to-be that they were required to preach on "the Good Samaritan" at another building in the city. Along the way the researchers "planted" a mugging scene. The preachers had to walk right past them to get to the building where they were to supposedly preach. Only half the preachers stopped to help the victim. Which half? Only the ones who felt they had a margin of time. Half of the preachers were taken that way with only a few minutes till the appointed time of their message; the other half were escorted early.

The bottom line. How we handle the margins of time in our life reflects on how we care for our neighbors.

Think about that...

--Ben

Friday, December 07, 2007

The Grinch

I've been looking for The Grinch with Jim Carrey, but Blockbuster doesn't have it, and no one I've asked owns it. Does anyone have it? I could really use it for this Sunday.

--Ben

On the Mark(et)

Had a great email today from a friend who pastors in PA. In his context they rent a row house and use that as their church club house. Using the bedrooms as offices. It reminded me of a church in D.C. that used a row house for their offices. Hmmm. Another thought.

--Ben

BTW...

For what it's worth, I thought I'd mention that we turned 10,000 hits in 13 months. Thanks!

One thing I know...

There are many things I don't know. That's why I appreciate this connection each day. You are reading the real time issues that I'm facing, and you are an important part of the solution. This week you know that we've begun the discussion of a permanent office solution for SRC. I have talked with a variety of people, because I know that I don't know anything about a commercial lease for space. A couple of you have been helping me via e-mail. Others have spoken with me in person. My coach, Patrick, has been open for three years and has a shared office at his mother church. A fellow planter in Jarretsville has an office suite. Some have recommended a prime location, others have said I should look around for a company that has an extra room that I could use. Then there's the deduction angle, which means that if the space is donated to me then the owner can write off the loss as a tax-deductible contribution.

So many options. I've got some contacts coming in that will help educate me on the process. I'm looking forward to it. Thanks for your help.

--Ben

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Part Arrives, Projectors Fixed.

My part arrived today, and now we're good to go. I hooked up the system, and it worked great. I'm meeting the A/V guys tonight to show them the setup. Then I'll pack it up on the trailer and we'll get it out Sunday.

I love our A/V team. They immediately accommodated me to meet tonight. They're the kind of people that don't just want to turn a knob, they want to know why and how it works.

We've got great guys, and a new volunteer from Sunday.

--Ben

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Your Experience Required

Hey it occurred to me that there might be some readers with experience with office leases. What a resource. If you could help me with information on what I should be thinking about and asking at the management interviews I'd appreciate an email at ben at severnriverchurch.com

--Ben

The Office

I mentioned before that I drive by the Severn River Business Center each day, and recently have felt the need for an office outside of my home. Currently my office is 28 degrees. It would be really nice to move into a place that would be a "Club House" of sorts for Severn River Church. I think that the home office was a good thing, but I think its time is up.

I checked into the SRBC earlier today and met with Joyce the manager. They offer furnished executive suites with shared Kitchen and Conference Room. So I'm starting to check things out. No commitments yet, still trying to familiarize myself with the issues related to leasing. I'll keep you informed.

--Ben

Projection Update

Well, I worked on the projectors yesterday. I was reflecting on the job of a pastor. One part student, one part teacher, preacher, leader, loader/unloader, manager, musician, IT, A/V Tech, Promoter, and much much more.

I'm not sure there is another job in the world that has such a wide variety demands. I love it.

After a couple hours yesterday of setting up the equipment, I could not replicate the problem. Then last night, after a good meeting with our Oversight Board, I ended up working on it some more, and finally got it to replicate the problem. So this morning I went back over and wanted to just be sure. Well this morning wasn't just a replica. It was the full out problem that we've been having. It has no solution within our current system, but I ordered a part that I think will fix it. I'm hoping it arrives today or tomorrow, and that will provide a fix for Sunday.

--Ben

Snow Before Christmas

My friend Matt has a saying, "If it's cold then it should be snowing." I think he's right, so I was thrilled with the snow today. Especially because it isn't laying on the roads. Just where it makes things pretty.

I hope you enjoy the snow today.

--Ben

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Video Projection and Other Questions of the Universe

Sunday the video projection experienced a major error, so this morning I set it up and tried to run it. I have not been able to replicate the problem that we had (of course) but I am dealing with another problem. I'll be back to work on it again this afternoon.

--Ben

The Aftermath

Yesterday I managed to take time in the afternoon for a nap. I must say I feel a lot better today. But I have to face the aftermath. Things I had to put off my schedule yesterday have reared their head with a vengeance and kept me hopping today. My girls are both sick so that is also adds a demand on my time as I try and help Corie. But I press on.

Monday, December 03, 2007

A Big Hit Day

I'm not sure what made this day special. Maybe it was Friend Day yesterday, or maybe the rumor got out I was taking a nap today. Either way I set a one day record for unique visitors to my blog. As always you're welcome to come and check it out. I think it's a good way for people to know what their pastor thinks about.

--Ben

Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...

I had lunch with a good friend of mine today. Phil took me to a local place and asked me some pretty straight forward questions. They were questions that I've been asking myself. And when he asked them, though some of the answers were embarrassing, I actually felt relieved; Relieved that I could put my stuff out on the table with a man who didn't even flinch when I shared those answers. Instead he said that he had been where I am. He just shared his experience and prayed for me.

At some point in the conversation he asked about my schedule lately. He said, "You know, sometimes sleeping is the most spiritual thing you can do."

Permission granted. I headed home and took a nap with me daughter. I think I'm feeling a little better too.

--Ben

Sunday, December 02, 2007

Friend Day

Today was friend day at Severn River Church. And I was so pleased to make so many new friends. We were able to connect with a lot of new people. I was so proud of so many who had friends there. I was also pleased with those who, like me, invited friends even if they couldn't come.

I was disappointed in our equipment. Many of you were gracious to me despite the video malfunction and consequent lack of music. I did my best given the circumstances. I want you to know that I take church seriously. I know that we're working in tag-team. You invite your friends and I sense you come in saying "Tag you're it. Do your thing." I work to do my best with your trust. I believe God wants to change people's lives that surrender to him. I'm thankful that from some of the conversations I was able to have after church, we'll see some of the friends back.

Thanks to everyone who made this day the exciting day that it was. For what it's worth, this was our highest attendance since our launch service. Great Job!

--Ben